Cre8tive Mojo talks Single!

Nothing can really prepare you for what SINGLE can bring. Single is my world, where as others, single is the last thing they ever want to be, yet LIFE has a FUNNY way of either making you single, or keeping you single. When people ask, "Why is she still single?" I still have to take a minute to answer the question.....but I will and the Answer will never be the real one....So here I will tell you the truth about being #SINGLE.

I am still single, because I want to be. That is all. I am not single till I find the right one, or single till I am taken. NO, I am just single, because I want to be. Nothing, so far, has motivated me enough to want to be "COUPLE". I know that is a bold statement, but it is true. No man, no epiphany, no zombie Apocalypse has infused me with the urge to merge. I am successful in my life, my cats cuddle me, and my other single friends reinforce my bad-ass single behavior.....Being Single is my world.

DO I fuck up at times? SURE, but I only owe an explanation to myself. That is how its been for me since I left my last relationship years ago. However, through my singleness, I have seen people who are single due other reasons --It's a phase, or a breakup, or financial reasons, or bad marriage, that lead them to being single....unlike me, it was a situational thing, where as I am choosing to not being with someone, until I want to be with someone.....and that feeling comes and goes.

A mist my 35th birthday, I had a somewhat crisis, trying to get to the bottom of my singleness, I thought maybe there was something wrong with me. Then, I met someone who has no idea how to be single, and I knew I was the professional single one. I learned things about being single, that I needed to teach, like----

setting boundaries---defining the relationship in single terms (FB< FWB< DATING<SEEING EACH OTHER)

Once you have defined your terms and conditions, you stay within those parameters and ENJOY yourself without it getting emotional or messy.....AND I have had a lot of fun. I have met a lot of interesting people that taught me something. The goal was always to HAVE FUN! No meeting parents, friends, or introducing them into your life-----NO! The only goal was to enjoy each other's company and being the moment. SINGLE also means that you have extra time to reflect, grow and try new things---UPGRADE YOURSELF, and MOVE on from any past that might be holding you back. THAT is what it means to me....

However, not everyone views it like that----they think it is a time to get skinny and attract another relationship, or chase another person, or to collect all the chics they can and rotate them. TO what level you are #SINGLE or #SINGLEAF .....it's all you. IT is really hard to sit with being alone and single, at times. YOU face most of the challenges in life without A significant other, however your support system makes up for it, as well as red wine. Also , those stupid fucking couple hoildays can get really annoying.

Recently, I found out some other crazy things about me, that I wouldn't have known if I wasn't single, my love for solo adventures---Either traveling or trying a something new. ---I have made many memories, and I have become a better person, all while being single....Being single has a way of teaching you things, you wouldn't learn otherwise......I learned some tough lessons that have changed me forever......

BUT< you have to be careful.

that's all.

xo

Cre8tive Mojo