Cre8tive Mojo Talks RELATIONSHIP

I actually first started talking to my boyfriend in 2015. We met on a Indian dating app called DILL MILL... It was then, when we got into our first conversation. I remember thinking, wow, he's too nice for me, and never ended up meeting him. We did remain Facebook friends, and occasionally I would get a Costco coupon from him on whats app.

Sad to say, it took three more years and a few COSTCO COUPONS from him to finally, pick up the phone and call him. I decided to finally meet up for a date. This goes to show you, what is meant to happen will happen (DESTINY).

Now, almost 6 months down the road, so much has changed. I SURRENDERED! I became a GIRL FRIEND. After 7 yrs being single, I didn't exactly remember how to be in a relationship. It was shocking to me, how much I had to relearn--and adjust, but eventually, I realized that a relationship requires a lot of opening up and trusting the journey----instead of freaking out about a destination. IT was also very shocking to me, how less effort I had to put in trying to find out how much he cared for me---it was clear HE loved ME and he told me numerous times until I actually believed him. I had to SURRENDER and let someone love me. THE REAL ME---the person who has A LOT of interesting quirks and, isn't prefect.

He isn't perfect, either. He has his flaws, just like me. WE are complete opposites, but have similar values. I have calmed down from my partying ways and come to appreciate Netflix, and video chats with my bf. Initially, it was tough, I felt like how can I remain myself, and still be in a relationship. I didn't want to lose myself, but then I realized that I couldn't. Eventually, it will all balance itself out.

It started to become also CLEAR, how hard I was on myself----Internally, I was judging myself for not being skinny enough, or feeling not enough for someone to love me. I felt the need to be perfect---but it just doesn't work that way----actually the more YOU, you are, the better. Because, in the end, he will fall in love with WHO you are, all of it. THAT was the biggest shocker. All these years, I would look at women who were in relationships and secretly wonder....SO MANY THINGS.

Another shocker was how much a healthy relationship can ADD to your life. My boyfriend is supportive, caring and a great listener. His kindness has soften some of my edges. It is great to have that love and companionship, but to also hold my own. Being alone for those years taught me some lessons, and I thank god for it---it lead me to my bf...and so far, I am very happy of discovering this new version of me. AND I LOVE HIM!

-cre8tive mojo